Comments on: A Good Man is Hard to Find … in San Diego

By: Classie Stjean

Classie Stjean — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 23:32:58 +0000

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By: Porsche Simpson

Porsche Simpson — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 19:55:04 +0000

Thanks so much professorx619!
I do agree. But don’t you think meeting people on the street can be a bit tough? So many people (including myself) are always on the go. So, where do older singles go to meet their potential sweethearts?

By: professorx619

professorx619 — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 23:19:03 +0000

I agree with John also. You’re essentially setting yourself for failure by going to these places and taking any of those guys seriously. Google “where to meet girls” and #1 will most likely be “at a bar” or “at a club” and why is that? Because statistically, those are the places that you can find slutty girls that once they have a few drinks in them, are pretty easy to manipulate. It’s a sad reality of the world and just something that girls have to live with. … and really? you go to PB and NOT expect to be surrounded by hookup seekers and relationship averse bachelors? it’s not called the #1 singles area in SD for nothing!

It’s been said over and over again, bars are great places to meet people .. (assuming you want the overwhelming casuality of everything with non-quality people) … but horrible places to meet quality men.

As a guy, I tried the club scene, never liked it and found the people there very ingenuine for the most part. Now I just meet women on the street during my daily routine and have found that to be so much more rewarding / real / successful.

I’m enjoying these posts keep up the good work Porsche!

By: Single Girl in San Diego

Single Girl in San Diego — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:04:57 +0000

I totally agree with you John. You’re absolutey rightt

By: John Zakhar

John Zakhar — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:17:35 +0000

Porsche,

I wasn’t implying that you were one of those types of girls, I am sorry if I came off like that.
I do however think that places like Belo, and other very popular bars/clubs tend to attract people looking to go out for a night of dancing, drinks and then a possible hook up.

The loud music, flashing lights, drinks, revealing clothing, they all promote an atmosphere of sex. There is nothing wrong with that, and it can be a good time. I’m just not sure id be optimistic about meeting my wife there, or even a quality female id be able to hold an intelligent conversation with.

I think that if you went to the Science Museum in Balboa Park you would be less likely to find a guy looking for just a hookup. Because the context you meet people in has a lot to do with how you as a person are seen later on.

Anyway, I agree with your observations (mostly), I just don’t think it’s limited to men. Good Women are just as rare.

By: Single Girl in San Diego

Single Girl in San Diego — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:50:58 +0000

Well John,
I know about the type of girls you wrote about and I proudly say that I definitely don’t fall under that category. A few days ago I myself said, “look at these girls in their short shorts. They want guys to look at them as sex.” Are they giving all girls a bad name…no, because those are the type of girls that would have went home with the guy that night.
It’s to the point where I go out to spend time with my girlfriends dancing and joking around, NOT to find a guy.

By: John Zakhar

John Zakhar — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 18:11:53 +0000

Ok, so as one of few males in this office here is my perspective..

I have been to a few of these clubs where women dress in dental floss for the evening and dance like they have no shame. Men are visual beasts, if you wave a pair of tits in front of us for hours on end, its all we end up thinking about, this is a genetic trait we have, propagation of the species and all that.

Now I don’t agree with the “hey, here’s your drink and when you’re done lets hit my place” mentality, but I certainly understand what causes it.

Both parties are at fault here, as a male I have zero chance of taking an interest in who you are as a person if upon our first meeting you’re wearing dimes to cover up your nipples and nothing else.

Also, from my own perspective, the good guys don’t go to clubs like that, we get yoked on drinks left and right by “nice girls looking for that special connection”

By: Francesca

Francesca — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:56:13 +0000

Great article, and unfortunately shines light on the true fact that a lot of people are downtown for the wrong reasons. Belo is cool and usually plays my jams. But the people I meet there are even more blatantly booty-callers than some of the other club attendees- so I don’t even bother mingling much outside of my group.

Why is it always you meet them in downtown then see them in PB, or the opposite?! All of this just makes me want to stay home. LOL. Look forward to reading more. But on the other side, don’t be discouraged there are some cool fools around, just got to find them between the grey goose and bumpin beats.

By: UCSDstudent

UCSDstudent — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 17:10:35 +0000

It’s not just your generation, unfortunately….I was reading this the whole time nodding my head and agreeing and getting deja vu, feeling that you’re a fellow student like me..but you’re 26. That does not give me hope for the future. Amazing article, and yes they are all like that. Then it gets you GIGI-ing (overreacting…the main character from “He’s Just Not That Into You”, Gigi, now made into a verb) and wondering if it’s you and why you ALWAYS lose the guy. It’s not you, it’s the guys and his lack of shame.

Keep these stories coming : )