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My male brethren, you have been warned. That time is upon us again.
No matter what our optimistic man-fantasies may conjure up over the next few weeks, the biggest screwing of the month will likely be ours. Get ready to grab your ankles and feel the hulking weight of commercialism all over you on February 14. That day, boyfriends, fiancés, and husbands nationwide will be expected to spend extravagant amounts of money to express their love for the women in their lives.
The worst part of it is, there’s nothing we can do about it. After all, we don’t want to come across as being cheap or thoughtless.
That being said, I do have a few suggestions for you dudes out there. If you’re sick of the typical fancy dinner at the typical fancy restaurant, paying atypical prices for overly-typical champagne, here are some ideas for a somewhat different Valentine’s experience: Read more
Find love before Valentine’s Day in San Diego
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The age old tradition is upon us; February 14th, that is. Valentine’s Day – it brings a joy to some, and is a stick in the foot to many others. It all depends on your Facebook status.
Are you single?
For the single in San Diego, a city with a population of over three million you would think there would be plenty of fish in the sea to catch before Valentine’s Day.
The odds are simple, the more you are out and about in America’s Finest City, the more likely you are to stumble upon something (or someone) new.
Check out some of the perfect “mingle spots” on the radar where you can meet other great local singles in San Diego. Try something new and find Mr. or Ms. Valentine so you’re warm and snugly by the time February comes around. For our picks on San Diego’s hot mingling spots, Read more
The Eternal Quest For The Quick Fix
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Have you ever browsed through a self-help guide, hoping to find an easy solution to a difficult problem? Have you ever purchased on credit an item you knew you couldn’t afford, or gotten frustrated with something that didn’t give you immediate results?
Are you on an endless quest for the quick fix? It’s an attitude that pervades every aspect of today’s society.
The quest for the quick fix infects the way we address our personal issues. It infects the way we view our jobs, our wealth, and our worth.
It infects our way of thinking and our way of life.
As a society, we’ve grown increasingly unwilling to put forth the hard work required to improve ourselves. We want simple solutions and immediate feel-good results. We want chicken soup for the soul and fast food for the belly.
The quest for the quick fix is directly responsible for the financial state of the nation. Read more
The Cursable Case of the Sneak-a-Break
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On last week’s episode of The Monologue in My Head, I discussed the conniving—but totally acceptable—sneak-a-date strategy many guys employ. This time, I’m going to talk about another sneak technique, one much more despicable, and one used by both men and women….
Julie had been dating Mark for several months. What she found most attractive about him was his laid-back style. He was cheerful and agreeable, and nothing ever seemed to fluster him. Even when he was stressed at work, he always managed to maintain an optimistic outlook.
Around the third month of their relationship, though, strange behaviors began to seep through Mark’s sunny surface. He became moody and argumentative. He started finding fault with little things that Julie would say or do—things that never bothered him before. Gradually, the upbeat guy Julie knew was replaced by an ornery cad.
Have you ever dated someone whose personality suddenly and inexplicably changes? Someone who turns from warm and fuzzy into cold and prickly? Someone who transforms from Big Bird to Oscar in the blink of an eye?
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Know how to avoid dating disasters
Avoid dating disasters (Photo by Zach Klein via Flickr).
Many people have experienced one bad date or two, but for those not so lucky, some endure a dating disaster. A dating disaster is somewhat different from a bad date.
A bad date falls along the lines of, “it doesn’t look like this will work,” “we have different points of view,” or “he/she wants more than I’m willing to offer.” However a disaster date can include inner thoughts such as, “How did I end up in this date, I’m going to kill my friend for setting me up,” “I think he/she might actually be crazy,” and “Where are my keys? I’m getting the hell out of here.”
If anyone has experienced any of these thoughts or desires to flee, then congratulations you suffered a disaster date. I hope therapy will be able to fix the mentally deteriorating experience. Whether you have gone through a disaster date or hear too many horror stories and want to avoid it completely, the big questions are what are some early detections of a disaster date? And are there some coy and clever moves to make a quick exit?
As a gold medalist in experiencing disaster dates they can come from a variety of scenarios. The most common being a blind date. Everyone has that one friend who thinks she is the matchmaker of the century and just has to find love connections for any of her single, yet happy, friends. Then there are common mistakes such as getting the number from a hottie at a club or bar thinking the 20 minutes of barely audible conversation is intriguing enough for a date. Or the good friend situation: We’re already friends but let’s try dating.
Now I’m not saying that all of these set-ups lead to horrible endings. Not that at all. I’ve known some very happy people who have met the love of their life in similar dating scenes. I’m just saying from personal experience and stories, these seem to rank high on the disaster dating list. Read more
